THIS. While this is something I have struggled with the majority of my adult life, it's something that has gotten way worse since becoming a mama. Knowing that I have a baby boy who depends on me for literally everything, a husband that depends on me for many things, and two businesses that depend on me, things can be a little hectic! Since becoming a stay at home mom, I have found new ways to neglect myself. At least when I was working outside the home, showering was a top priority. Now? Dry shampoo and messy buns are my hold me overs.
I also do an amazing job of not feeding myself properly throughout the day. I maximize Asher's nap times to catch up on emails, editing, laundry, dishes, you name it. There are so many days where my husband asked me what I ate today and I struggle to answer that question. Nutrition is SO important and it kills me that I neglect myself and my body that way. I need to work harder at meal planning and prepping breakfasts and lunches for ME. I do it for my husband so he has nutritious, home cooked meals at work, and I don't do it for myself. Now that's just insane.
Aside from BASIC NECESSITIES, such as feeding myself and showering, there is so much more that comes into play. Let's not forget that "me" time we all forget about. Most days, I cram my entire life into two hours at the end of the day once Asher has gone to bed. The problem with that, is I am so exhausted and depleted, I often forego focusing on myself and use that time to spend with my husband. Now, don't get me wrong, spending time with my husband is incredible and somewhat falls into the me time category, buuuuut not really. Me time needs to consist of 100% alone time, focusing on whatever makes you most happy. Whether that be catching last week's episode of This Is Us, reading a few chapters in that book you bought 3 months ago, or simply pouring yourself a glass of red wine and taking a hot bath. DO IT. Self care and self love is so insanely important mamas. And it's not till we are completely drained and empty do we realize that.
The saying, "You can't pour from an empty cup" has never been more true. Fill your cup. Figure out SOME way to refill it. My top three favorite me items include: morning coffee during morning nap, Thursday night shows (Grey's Anatomy and Scandal!), and about once a month sneaking out for a pedicure. It's in those moments that I feel small pieces of Brittany come back. Not mama, not business owner, not wife, not big sister, not daughter, not best friend....just ME. We wear so many hats and sometimes the one that fits the best is the one that gets shuffled to the back of the closet.
My whole life is my family. And I wouldn't do anything to change that. But making time for myself and my own personal needs absolutely must happen more often.
I hope and pray sweet mamas, that you find the desire and strength to do this for yourself. I would LOVE to hear what your favorite "me time" moments include! <3
Sending you so much love + support always. xoxo