I was having lunch with a friend of mine the other day, and she was talking about how GUILTY she feels sometimes needing time for herself. Needing time away from the 24/7 life of being a mama. Even if she leaves her baby with her own husband, she said she often feels instant guilt for asking. Ohhhh mama, how I can relate.
For some reason, us moms feel the need (and sometimes have no choice) to do it all. We take care of baby all day + all night with the only "down time" being when they nap....and we all know how naps go...completely unpredictable. It can be very taxing doing this day in + day out! For me, I think I have overcome the guilt of asking for a break but where my "mom guilt" comes in happens during the day, and quite often. I try my hardest to clean the house, run our two businesses, meal plan, grocery shop, laundry, take care of the dog, and OH YEA! Care for our 3 month old....it's A LOT. I'm getting better at balancing it all, but some days shit just doesn't get done, and THAT'S OK. I put that in caps so I plant it deeper into my own brain. I feel so guilty sometimes laying Asher on his play mat or putting him in his swing for 30 mins while I wash dishes, or meal plan, or whatever. But sometimes, I need those additional 30 minutes! Especially on days where he only takes a few 20 minute power naps! Then there are days where I just refuse to put my baby on the back burner (for lack of a better term) and the other stuff just has to wait. So really, it's a damned if you do and damned if you don't type of guilt. On one hand I feel guilty for not spending every minute of Asher's awake time with him, then on the other hand I feel guilty for not getting everything else done that being a stay at home mama requires. SHEESH! I need a drink just thinking about it :)
So while I don't necessarily have all the answers, I do know this. Mom guilt is real and it is OK and NORMAL to feel. But that being said, we must know it's ok to ask for help. It's ok to understand some days you just CAN'T do it all. And most importantly, it's OK to take a time out! Those babies are pretty dang needy and if you don't take a time out for yourself, I'm certain you'll go insane! :)
I cannot recommend enough to surround yourself + talk with other mamas. It has been such a blessing chatting with my mama friends (and clients!) about the struggles of motherhood. It's actually fun and entertaining comparing stories! Sometimes just knowing there is someone else out there that just gets it, is all we need. <3