Today, I decided to share what I have learned so far in my motherhood journey. While motherhood is quite the adjustment and everyday I am learning something new, I wouldn't trade my new "job" for anything in the world. That being said, I give you my top 10 lessons and "advice" :)....
1. Master doing everything one handed. If your baby is anything like mine, he/she wants held...a lot. So in order to do anything, you will need to skillfully function with one hand. I do occasionally use my moby baby wrap, but my child likes to throw his head back randomly so unless he is unconsciously passed out, that option doesn't always work!
2. Also master using all 4 limbs. Yes. There are so many times Ash is asleep on me and I will need to reach my phone, the remote, his pacifier, and so on. My legs and toes have become my second set of arms! (yes, I sometimes pick my son's pacifier up with my feet) haha! Do what ya gotta do mamas!
3. You will never be so excited about poop. My son apparently inherited my digestive system and he doesn't poop regularly. So when he does poop, it's a big deal (and a big mess!). Texting my husband at work "Asher pooped!" is fairly common. You're welcome.
4. You literally beg your baby to sleep. There are so many times (mainly at 4am) where I find myself having a very serious conversation with my (almost) month old baby. "Please go to sleep sweet baby...mama just wants some sleep". I wonder how long it will take till I start offering things.. "If you go to sleep, I will let you suck on your fingers..". Probably tonight. I get pretty desperate.
5. Drinking coffee at 4pm will be your new normal. I don't know what it is about going on 4pm, but I tend to hit a huge wall. I really try not to drink caffeine because I am giving him breast milk, but some days, it's a requirement if I want to function the second half of the day.
6. Change your clothes, brush your hair & put some make on every day. I surely don't do this, BUT I am trying. My days are far much more productive and I overall feel much better on the days that I do this. Even if no one is going to see me, I still try to do it. It's so important to make yourself feel good and for me, just putting on actual clothes & a bit of mascara does wonders! It's almost like tricking yourself into feeling good! haha
7. It's ok to accept help. I have a hard time accepting help, even from my husband. It's hard letting someone else care for your baby! And sometimes quite honestly, it's almost easier to just do it yourself. "Ok, make sure you hold him like this, he doesn't like that position, make sure you burp him every ounce, hold his pacifier in his mouth like this.." Yes, I'm that mom. But I've worked hard getting to know my baby and what makes him happy. BUT! In order to remain sane during this brand new transition, it's so important to let others help. It gives you a few minutes or hours to focus on you. You MUST take care of yourself in order to take care of them! Bonus points if they offer to bring food or coffee too :)
8. Take (and post!) tons of photos of your baby. While there is undoubtedly a ton of people on social media that say things like "I don't wanna see 100 photos a day of your kid!", there are equally as many people on social media that DO! And guess what? I don't necessarily care to see your gym selfies or posts about your paleo or vegan dinners, but I am friends with you and I accept what you are proud of and choose to post! I would MUCH rather see photos of all my friends babies than 95% of the crap on social media anyway. Your baby changes SO much week by week, day by day. Capture those precious moments while you can. Trust me, you will be happy you did!
9. Set aside time with your partner. I know I know, this sounds impossible with a needy newborn. But it's SO important. Even if it's 30 minutes a day, please try to find a way. Our time usually happens once Asher is down for the night. We lay in bed, watch a show, and just enjoy each other. Don't put your marriage on the back burner, because it's JUST as important as it was before baby!
10. And lastly, take it easy on yourself. You just had a BABY! Your body, your emotions, and your hormones are just wrecked. You're sleep deprived. Your whole world just got flipped upside down. It's ok to get frustrated, it's ok to be scared or worried, and it's totally OK to want to walk away for a few minutes! Newborns are hard. Just know you're an amazing mother and we are all trying to do the best we can for our babies. So take a minute, take a deep breath, and know that each day, it TRULY does get better. <3