Ya know, I was the PERFECT mother....before I had a baby ;) During my pregnancy, I had all these wonderful plans and ways I would raise my children. While I still hold very tight to a lot of those plans, some of them went straight out the window within the first week of Asher's arrival. The truth is, there is no one way to be a parent. And if I'm being super honest?! It takes a freakin' village!! After Asher's birth, I turned away a lot of people's offers. Whether it be to watch him while I took a nap, for them to bring over food, do my laundry, and so on. Well I'm here to tell you after 6 months in, LET OTHERS HELP! lol.
Of course, this all depends on who and your own comfort. I have been beyond blessed to have an amazing and supportive family within 15 minutes of us. My mom, Jerry's mom, and Jerry's sister always offer to help anytime we need! This past weekend, Jerry & I worked our first wedding together...in Columbus. That meant arranging someone(s) to watch our baby all day Saturday and overnight Saturday night till we got home Sunday. I am so thankful that our first time being that far away from Asher, we had him left in the care of both of our mothers. I am forever grateful that Asher has such wonderful grandma's that are so willing to help us! I mean, he is pretty dang cute so who wouldn't?! ;)
Anyway, the true reason of this post kind of ties into a few other previous posts. And I just want to not only let other mamas out there know that it's ok to let others in, but it's crucial. The break for you will benefit so much and it also really benefits your children! I love that Asher has such a great relationship with his grandparents so young, and I cannot wait to watch it continue to grow. Plus, I think it truly means a lot to our mothers and families when we ask them to help. It shows we trust them completely with the most important (thing) in our lives.
I'be always been extremely bull-headed and stubborn, that's no secret. So when it came to becoming a mother, those traits came right along with it. I sometimes am so stubborn in my own ways, I won't even hear what others are actually saying. That is something I really am trying to work on. I need to understand that Asher's life will be so much better if his entire family helps raise him! But it's hard. He's MY baby. I made him. I birthed him. I nursed him. In that same breath, us mamas also need to understand that sometimes, IT'S OK to be selfish with our babies. It's ok to say no. It's important to know our comfort zones. But it's finding a balance in it all that, that's important.
I don't have all the answers mamas, far from it. But I can share what I do know thus far and what I've learned. I hope this helped some of you out today. Knowing it's ok to allow others in and to let them help. I know we want to do it all, and we can! But usually, we are far better when we have supportive help along the way. <3